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Cruelty 101
Dec. 14th, 2009 11:52 amCruelty 101
You run into all kinds of people when you venture into the realm of kink. That’s hardly surprising as for better or for worse this is just a subset of society as a whole.
Sometimes it’s for the worse.
There are people who like to mock, deride, and debase those who are different. Despite the frequently heard kink tenet of acceptance and an advertised acceptance and celebration of diversity1 these people openly attack people who are different.
There are also people who deliberately hurt others and enlist the help of others to spread their hatred.
I ran across this recently when a friend of mine was systematically harassed by a person who will remain nameless.2 Over a few days the level and intensity of the crap that was going on increased until the provocateur decided to use others to hurt and started using real names.
Real names are sacred with kink circles and you don’t spread them around – they’re well guarded and protected rigorously. In most circles spreading someone’s real name is an offense that is considered to be very serious. Real names are also protected by people who have legally changed their names for very good reasons.
Sometimes people change their names when they change their gender from female to male or from male to female. These people who are referred to as transgendered or transsexual protect their past as they move forward toward where they are heading on their unique paths.
Getting back to the issue at hand, the asshole in question decides to start using the old male name of a male to female transgendered person – in email and in public forums. Pretty fucking low, pretty fucking disgusting. This is a hurtful, cruel thing to do to a person who faces daily struggles as they face the world – it’s like kicking a puppy.
There is no excuse for this type of behavior – none, yet this type of person will find some way to justify his actions. I’m usually pretty laid back and let things go but in this case the action was so deliberate, so thought out, so premeditated that I am tempted to name the asshole.
You run into all kinds of people when you venture into the realm of kink. That’s hardly surprising as for better or for worse this is just a subset of society as a whole.
Sometimes it’s for the worse.
There are people who like to mock, deride, and debase those who are different. Despite the frequently heard kink tenet of acceptance and an advertised acceptance and celebration of diversity1 these people openly attack people who are different.
There are also people who deliberately hurt others and enlist the help of others to spread their hatred.
I ran across this recently when a friend of mine was systematically harassed by a person who will remain nameless.2 Over a few days the level and intensity of the crap that was going on increased until the provocateur decided to use others to hurt and started using real names.
Real names are sacred with kink circles and you don’t spread them around – they’re well guarded and protected rigorously. In most circles spreading someone’s real name is an offense that is considered to be very serious. Real names are also protected by people who have legally changed their names for very good reasons.
Sometimes people change their names when they change their gender from female to male or from male to female. These people who are referred to as transgendered or transsexual protect their past as they move forward toward where they are heading on their unique paths.
Getting back to the issue at hand, the asshole in question decides to start using the old male name of a male to female transgendered person – in email and in public forums. Pretty fucking low, pretty fucking disgusting. This is a hurtful, cruel thing to do to a person who faces daily struggles as they face the world – it’s like kicking a puppy.
There is no excuse for this type of behavior – none, yet this type of person will find some way to justify his actions. I’m usually pretty laid back and let things go but in this case the action was so deliberate, so thought out, so premeditated that I am tempted to name the asshole.